by James “ Kojak ” Hughs

“Vengeance is mine…says the Lord” (Romans 12:19) Unfortunately many of us do not follow this wise advice.

Some time ago, I met a lovely lady. As we became friends she confided in me that she had caught her husband cheating and for the last twelve years had been punishing him. I said I feel so sorry. She responded, “Do not feel sorry for him. He deserves it.”

“I was not sorry for him, I am sorry for you” “ For the last twelve years you have kept that pain alive. Every time you punished him, you also punished yourself; such a waste.”

“What should I have done just let him get away with it?”

Nobody “gets away” with anything in this life. Eventually everyone answers for their sins. As I see it you, had two choices. Either you leave him or you forgive him and stay. If you stay, you become an even more loving partner and let him feel the full weight of his guilt for having hurt a good woman. But punishing him hurts both of you, made you both bitter; two wasted lives.

For the past 17 years my wife’s family has suffered at the hands of a neighbor. He rented them his land for 9 years and then they discovered the land was not even his. It was public land and belonged to the city. When they stopped “renting”, the feud began. There was anger, threats and bitterness on both sides. He even threatened to burn down their simple cubo.

When I arrived on the scene, I changed tactics; I took a huge chocolate cake to his home and gave it to his wife. They were confused. They could not understand. Eventually they gave the cake away fearing I had poisoned it. Of course I had not done anything but do what the Bible says: “Love thy enemy”.

I confess my tactics did not and probably will not solve the problem but it sure confused the hell out of him and slowed down the conflict. He will answer for his crimes, as must we all eventually.

Abraham Lincoln once said something very wise, “NEVER FIGHT WITH AN IDIOT; PEOPLE WONT BE ABLE TO TELL YOU APART”

HTML Comment Box is loading comments...